Is over-giving the cause of most breast cancer?

Is over-giving the cause of most breast cancer?

I’m a guy and certainly no expert on women nor on breast cancer. All I can say is I see some patterns in healing energetic disturbances I wish to share, in case they can assist you.

A very common pattern plays itself out in Western lives called “breast cancer.” If we think of this pattern as a movie, we can run this movie backwards and perhaps learn something.  The description here will be terms I use as a Medical Intuitive.

We start at the end. In the end we find our heroine battling for her life, or at least her body, at the end of a long period of giving to others in many ways, giving too much to other people and their agendas and not enuf to her own self-care, to her own goals, dreams and passions; in a word, over-giving.

Further back in the movie we find a point when our heroine loses track of her own ability to care about herself, loses her ability to care about her own goals and dreams in any effective way.

Further back our heroine often literally loses her birth mother or loses her connection with any model of caring and nurturing we expect to get from a mother figure in early childhood.

At the very beginning of the movie, our heroine, as an infant, has a normal-average experience of bonding with her mother, whatever bonding was possible.

Now let’s run the movie forward again.

First our heroine as a tiny infant has a mother and bonds with her. For some amount of time at least, she experiences being cared for. IF our heroine receives mothering, for an adequate amount of time, she will internalize this caring and “have an inner mother.” We’ll call this inner part, this inner mother, Guinever.

Later in childhood, at some age, our heroine loses her outer mother; the mother goes away for some reason; or at least, this outer resource of caring goes away. Our heroine now has to care for herself IF she is able to. If she has lost her inner mother, this is difficult to do.

Around puberty all women in Western countries encounter massive propaganda to “become women” and prepare themselves for the role of future mother and caregiver. Teenage women are very susceptible to this adult propaganda as teens girls are more emotionally mature than teen boys. If the girl had a happy childhood, she is often persuaded to put all that behind her and become a little woman in her early teens.

Women’s over-giving makes men very happy, serves male needs very nicely, serves the need of patriarchy very well and you can see the bind many women find themselves in.

At some point our heroine is explicitly pressured to take care of others, it could be her husband, it could be sick parents, it could be co-workers at a job. For whatever reason taking care of others becomes the highest priority. Taking care of her self can no longer be her number one priority.

Taking care of others first can be the highest priority for years and often decades. But who is taking care of the care-giver? If the care-giver has lost her inner Mother, her inner Guinever, functioning as a caregiver without being able to take care of her own self adequately, we call this over-giving, giving more to others than to self, making other people’s needs a higher priority than taking care of your own needs.

This can be very wearing, can wear down the immune system, permitting cancer to get a foothold in the body.

Healers in general and women healers especially are the MOST prone to this pattern. Many women healers I know had to extricate themselves from over-giving consciously, over a period of time to regain needed balance in their own lives.

Q: So what’s the solution?

A: Fortunately there are MANY SOLUTIONS, too many to mention here. Getting support to re-establish you own caring for self, in some form, is crucial. Support groups can be crucial. Whatever works to take back caring from others and to put it back where it belongs IN YOU helps. Each solution is somewhat individual.

If you can self-test, you have more options; if you can communicate with your own immune system, you have more options.

If you can self-test, you can measure your giving on the right and left sides of your body. Bertrand Babinet alerted me to the power of testing for Giving and Receiving as if they are real quantities. At one point I measured my own giving against my own Optimum and found I was still over-giving at 101% of optimum. The evidence for this was very obvious in my life at the time. So men can have this problem too tho very rarely to the degree women are prone to it.

Can you voice a healthy “yes” and a healthy “no”?

Many readers will know a terrific antidote to over-giving is healthy boundaries, checking and strengthening your boundaries between your self and other people. Other women writers have taken this up and the famous book is When I Say No, I Feel Guilty by Manuel Smith.

One piece of The NEW Energy Anatomy may be useful here. On the right, yang side of our body, is our capacity to say “yes” to what we do want. On our left, yin side of our body, is our capacity to say “no” to what we don’t want.

See also the post on Hands of Life by Julie Motz, the best book I have seen on cancer psychology and one of the best on breast cancer psychology.

If you get stuck, give me a call.

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Author of 12 books/eBooks on self-healing, Bruce has been seeing clients professionally since 2001. His passion is resolving wellness concerns for people who wish to avoid drugs and surgery. He founded Spirit of Giving Holistic Consults and co-founded the Westside Chamber of Commerce. With masters in both school counseling and Spiritual Science, he follows both the Law of Spiderman and the Law of Gentleness for Healers.

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