eBook: Forgiveness, the Missing Manual: Forgive from your soul

Forgiveness 101, the Missing Manual:

Forgive from Your Soul

How-to eBook incorporating Slow-motion Forgiveness™

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Because of its high frequency, Forgiveness is about the only talk therapy tool, impossible to screw up with other people. Apply self-muscle-testing to forgiving and issues clear more smoothly and quickly. This reports on ten years of forgiving with clients using muscle testing and Love, Light & Angels as our Partners.

If you work with Forgiveness as a soul intuition and soul action, it will be safe to share this with family, friends and clients–as long as you keep forgiving each other in each session! Practice using it in the context of Soul and Above, and simply have at it!

To navigate the more challenging bottlenecks of your own and individual cases, it really helps if you can do Client-controlled Testing (CCT), self-muscle-testing, of any kind. See HealingToolbox.org for the latest ways to acquire.

 

Forgiveness, the forgotten super-hero of growth

Self-forgiveness is HUGE if being spiritually self-reliant is your goal.

Forgiveness is FUN, if you find and practice with a Healing Buddy.

If you can think of a more common, effective tool for self-healing than self-forgiveness, please tell me.

Few people seem to understand enuf about Forgiveness to get full effective use. With a little education about how unresolved issues are formed, stored and released below the level of the rational mind, you can get get much more “oomph” out of forgiveness for growth.

Forgiveness 101, the Missing Manual

Q: What’s limited in our conventional ideas about Forgiveness?

A: Two big things. First, we misunderstand, in simple math terms, most growth in the Earth experience, below the conscious mind, is a SUBTRACTION PROCESS.

Second, we don’t pay attention and discern how “being stuck” anywhere in life, is nothing more nor less than FACING MULTIPLE ISSUES. We don’t slow down, chunk down and make our issues a “cinch by the inch;” we try to eat the while enchilada in one gulp. To switch metaphors, we forget our unconscious is developmentally equal to a three year old.

Most growth is a SUBTRACTION process

Education for the conscious mind works like addition because our conscious self starts out as a blank slate, with everything added back in during infancy and childhood.

Predictably we approach Forgiveness the same way, as if it was an addition process. This is why the first popular approach to Forgiveness, in modern terms, was thru affirmations, thanks to Louise Hay in the early 1980s. Thanks to Louise Hay and the affirmation boom of the 1980s, most of us are very familiar with affirmations, the additive math process in growth. Affirmations are analogous to the addition process.

But Forgiveness does not work additively; Forgiveness is analogous to the subtraction process. Forgiveness, not affirmations, is the primary subtractive process.

When people use forgiveness like affirmations, they get little effectiveness out of forgiveness, like trying to drive a car only in reverse. It’s using the tool improperly, like trying to open an unlocked door with a hammer. You don’t need a hammer, just turn the door handle; the door opens easily.

Forgiveness is primarily active at a much different frequency than our linear, sequential, rational mind. Forgiveness is primarily an action of and an action in our sub- and unconscious levels, tracking all the way back and up to our eternal-immortal soul.

Dysfunctional habits in our sub- and unconscious are all very accessible here in the physical 3D experience, much more accessible here in 3D than after we die or before we are born. RIGHT HERE is the ideal place to SUBTRACT, clear, resolve, shed and release unresolved disturbances in our sub- and unconscious This is a primary value of the Earth experience.

This eBook, Forgiveness 101, the Missing Manual was written to correct this improper use of forgiveness. With more awareness of how and why our unconscious stores unresolved disturbances and what it is waiting for from us, you can start having Forgiveness Parties at your home too! This new way of using forgiveness is called Slow-Motion Forgiveness (TM) and everyone can learn it.

First, people can benefit from learning how we “get stuck” and appreciate what this phrase represents in our sub- and unconscious

 

“Being stuck” means you face multiple issues

Our rational, intellectual mind, either thinking or feeling, can process an either-or question. Even a teenager can respond to a multiple choice question. A three year old cannot do either. Our subconscious is more like a three year old.

Our rational, intellectual mind is our “oldest self” developmentally; our subconscious is always developmentally “younger;” and, our UNconscious is youngest of all, has the least language and the fewest sensory channels open. So the younger a disturbance is in or biography the more common it is to feel stuck; because, our younger selves have many, many fewer Tools That Heal than we do as independently thinking adults.

Virtually every time anyone anywhere, is stuck for any reason; myself included, it’s because multiple unresolved incidents are present, bubbling up from slower and lower frequencies, below our Speedy Gonzalez rational mind.

“Being stuck” is exactly analogous to the “deer in head lights” phenomena, “Do I stay here or do I run now?” It gets more complex if where you are is comfortable and nourishing. If danger is present, then both running and staying have a cost.

Whether to stay or to run, how we both love and hate our mother, appreciate and despise our job–these are all alive inside us, below the surface. But they must wait for the rational mind to address and sort them out. Leave a two or three year old to decide if they want choice, A, B, C, or D–and they may break out crying.

The very young child is not equipped to respond to multiple choices and that is what your unconscious is. The very young child is equipped to respond to one thing at a time. The deeper you go in the sub- and unconscious, the more this is true. Our rational mind can process an either-or question; a teenager can respond to a multiple choice question; a three year old can tell you if they want mango slices or an ice cream cone.

Please remember; almost every time you have trouble with a question, it’s because you have multiple questions in one question, or multiple decision makers involved, or both. So when in doubt, chunk down the choices to just one. That’s what your inner three year old wants.

Q: How does this work in Forgiveness?

A: Virtually on every unresolved issue, MULTIPLE INCIDENTS inhere. You have to give your subconscious opportunity and time to delete all the incidences. You can take this to the bank: it’s never just one incident. That will almost always be an abstraction, not what the inner child is stuck on.

Slow-Motion Forgiveness (TM), a better way to forgive

The Missing Manual

We have to step back from what we think we know about forgiving and look at it in relationship with judgments.

The two are virtually opposite poles.

The way forgiveness works in the inner child is based on how judgment works in the inner child.

How judgment works in the inner child (lots of new concepts here; feel free to re-read this several times)

One job the basic self, the inner child, has is recording and storing unresolved disturbances.

Unresolved disturbances are any experiences charged with negativity the soul has not yet addressed and extracted learning from. The soul knows all 3D experiences are valuable and useful.

In service to the soul, the inner child records and holds onto all unresolved experiences.

This means the inner child is also holding onto the negativity until the soul addresses the disturbance.

This is why all of us, me included, carry so much negativity: we have plenty of unresolved disturbances yet to address. So don’t feel like the Lone Ranger. If you get stuck, give me a call or anyone else you trust who has resolved issues at the level you wish to work.

The inner child holds onto the disturbed energetic until the soul accesses and extracts the life learnings held in that memory.

Example of how issues form

Example (1) As adults we stub our toe or break a vase at home. We exclaim, curse, talk about it, possibly cry–all movements of our diaphragm–and we go on.

Example (2) We have a disturbing experience as a child. We are too young to process it to resolution. We go on–and we store the memory and feelings of the disturbing incident as a “story” so that one day, the good, beautiful and true can be separated out and used by the soul. Then the remaining waste, any mental-emotional residue after learning has been extracted, is eliminated.

Where are these unresolved experienced stored? Anywhere the inner child can put them. First it stores them in the subconscious mind. But not too much room there. When that gets full the inner child has no choice but to store them in the unconscious; there’s more room there. However the physical body is also at the frequency of the unconscious. So unresolved disturbances stored in the unconscious are also stored in the body according to the psychology of the meridians and psychology of major organs and glands.

 

All habits and issues formed thru repetition

We form and create our issues the same way we form and create any other habit, thru repetition.

Rehearse any negative experience enuf times and the inner child remembers it.

Say you have an issue with feeling betrayed; any suspicion of future betrayal triggers you into uncomfortable reaction; you are super-sensitive to any hint you might be betrayed again.

Do you think this formed from feeling betrayed one time? Or do you think this automatic reaction formed from feeling betrayed over and over?

Q: What if I was physically betrayed only once but then thought about this one incident every day for 30 years?

A: Our inner child lives in fairy tale time, past-present-future all squished together. Remembering a distrubance every day, recalling the uncomfortable images and feelings of that one incident over and over, is the same as reliving it over and over, for the inner child, from your neck down.

This same metaphor applies to learning to tie your shoelaces, mastering negative numbers in pre-algebra, or learning to live with ‘God as my Partner,’ all of them habits learned thru reinforcement, each of them a “song to be learned and sung.”

A bona fide “issue” requires many instances of repeating that negativity. Once it has “heard the song” enuf times, it eventually learns how to “sing the song” itself.

Once a “song” has been learned, the inner child keeps singing that song until you tell it to “sing a different tune.”

Most of our problems are with “songs” repeating in endless loops in our unconscious, us unaware of this, from the neck up.

This is one value of spiritual exercises, of any kind: you get quiet enuf to hear the next song still playing away down there and can change to a happier tune.

These unresolved hurts, judgments, “sad songs,” are sometimes described by clairvoyants as “pins,” to switch metaphors again. Hence the commonly heard phrase “human pin cushion.”

 

How the inner child keeps track of unresolved hurts

We all have lots of unresolved hurts our inner child is keeping track of. The more hurts we can subtract, the more sad songs we can change to happy tunes, the less oppression our cells feel and this is how growing personally and spiritually can be anti-aging for the body.

When we have many instances of the same unresolved feeling, the inner child needs a simpler way to keep track of these incidents–it simply numbers them: the first time I allowed myself to feel betrayed and let down, the second time I allowed myself to feel betrayed and let down, etc.

That’s the bad news: each incident of feeling betrayed IS recorded. The good news is, since incidents are recorded by the number, they can be forgiven by the number! It’s easy! The hard part is getting clients to see how easy this is and not to struggle.

How to do Slow-Motion Forgiveness (TM)

“I forgive myself for allowing myself to feel __________ (i.e. betrayal), the first time, the second time, the third time 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12 . . .

Q: How do I know slow-motion forgiveness™ is working for me?

A: You are looking for any inner shift of your energy. Anything. Count as long as energy continues to shift, move and clear. There is no ritual here. If no energy moves, try changing-adjusting the forgiveness target emotion.

Q: How high do I count?

A: Keep counting as long as energy moves inside you. I ask clients in 1:1 sessions to count to 30 or 50. In the next three days, it can be very healing for clients do it again–as long as energy moves somehow. I count to 1000 on my own issues. I often do this walking, one number per step.

Q: How do I know if I have identified the best target emotion?

A: If energy moves, it’s a “hit.” If nothing moves, change something. Please do make up your own verbal formulas and try them! You know you have the right word formula if energy moves and clears. Feel free to change the words to “hit the nail more on the head.” This is trial and error, simple scientific method. NLP puts it this way, “If you don’t get the result you wish, try something else.” The University of Santa Monica (USM) puts it this way, “Make something up,” (MSU).

Q: What will I feel?

A: Often clients cannot feel the energy move. A more intuitive person can tell them what’s occurring. The typical experience is throwing off a burden you no longer wish to carry. This feels like throwing off a wet blanket. Give me a phone call if you get stuck.

To Learn More:

Forgiveness, the Key to the Kingdom by John-Roger. Summary: Virtually nothing on the “how to” of forgiveness yet any page you turn to has the frequency of forgiveness.